Don't wait to see what others do.
The other day I saw this quote from Mahatma Gandhi: "We need not wait to see what others do."
It sparked for me right away. I'm always waiting to see what others will do. It's almost impossible for me not to, as this is the way I know how to fit in, how to be what people expect, to please others, be easy for others to manage, talk to, interact with. It's how I avoid being a trouble to anyone. It's probably been trained in me since I was small, but it's also something I've come to learn and be rewarded for as I went through life. It's probably true for a lot of women. Maybe men too. And it's not necessarily a bad thing.
However. The people who change the world are the people who don't always do what people expect. They don't always fit in or do what makes the people around them feel comfortable. They are willing to make a little trouble now and again.
I am not really trying to change the world. Or maybe I am, and maybe I should be. Maybe we should all be. When I looked up the Gandhi quote online I found that it comes from a longer passage:
We but mirror the world. All the tendencies present in the outer world are to be found in the world of our body. If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. This is the divine mystery supreme. A wonderful thing it is and the source of our happiness. We need not wait to see what others do.Change happens one person at a time, and each of us has a huge impact, whether we mean to or not, on the people in our worlds.
I like the idea of being bolder about my points of view, and putting more effort into being courageously true to myself, and not waiting to see what others are doing. What about you?
Hope you have a sparky day!
Spark of the Day is a blog series where I document and share the ideas that spark (i.e. resonate with) me. They are usually either ideas I come across during my day, or ideas I have as a result of my work and personal writing. Spark is the "one little word" I have chosen for 2015.